Personal resilience takes a great part of one’s wellbeing. If we wanted to describe it, we could say that it means we are strong enough to recover from the inconvenient life events that normally make people sad, anxious, or even sick. But this does not mean that nothing gets through to them – on the contrary; resilient people let things touch them, but not change their personality or attitude towards life. Through negative experiences, they accept, they learn, and they grow.
I was always admiring these people and I still can sense the distant times when I never thought I could be one of them. Looking back with a smile I can say that I’ve walked a long path to get myself to where I am today. Some may say that I am a new person now, but I know I am not. This is just me, the real Sasa, contributing her little, but the very real piece to the global puzzle of living.
How I Use My 7 Personal Resilience Keys in Everyday Life
Instead of being theoretical I like to try things and then share the experience. Right after I learned the common resilience foundations, I started using them and they improved my life so much that I am really excited to tell you about them. But first, let me stress that we may have different techniques. However, maybe mine will help some of you to start finding your own.
Because my genuine wish for you is to unlock the keychain to your own personal resilience. To help you do so, let me share with you the following 7 keys I found on my transformational path.
Personal Resilience Key #1: Know Thyself
While knowing the purpose of my life brought more “strategic” strength, the other part, regarding the emotional patterns, brought more “operative” one. I took a clear insight into my behavioural specifics. This has brought the feeling of the control and strength of operating with my reactions in a way that wouldn’t disturb my inner peace as much as before.
Personal Resilience Key #2: Meditation
Every day, when I wake up I meditate. Sometimes for a few minutes and I already feel balanced. When things get rough, I might take an hour. Through meditation, I focus on my passion for work and love for life. By doing so, I strengthen my heart and soul to successfully cope with difficult situations that I might be facing at the moment.
Personal Resilience Key #3: Going Outdoors
I like to keep in touch with nature. Taking long walks with my dog Nelly through the forest on a nearby hill calms me down. I remember how small we all are and how nature has its own plan no matter what we do. It is a metaphor for life – it’ll go as it is meant to. And for me, it’s been going more than well. Knowing that is a great help to a personal resilience.
Personal Resilience Key #4: Being Together
Having strong connections with people is another important part of my life. It might be easier for me as it is a personal trait that comes from who I am. Thanks to the universe, it’s also something that helps me get through difficult moments. I love to be together with all these amazing people in my life. This is why I keep organizing parties and invite people over. By being together we share amazing energy and joy and liveliness.
Personal Resilience Key #5: Having Someone to Talk to
Also, in the less happy moments, there is always someone who I can talk to or ask for advice or just sit together with to feel the closeness. I have my husband, my children, my soul family members, friends, colleagues from work, business partners … and many of them are my close friends and confidants.
But those that know me the most are the people who are not close to me by the blood-relations or geographical closeness. It’s the people who I can talk to about my deepest fears and greatest dreams. The people who we share values with and who hold space for me. And I hold space for them.
Personal Resilience Key #6: Predictions & Planning
From my experience, the worst-case scenarios rarely happen. But if we expect them, we can prepare by having somewhere to go to (when it’s about difficult family affairs) or making some financial savings (if it is about losing a job). Basically, it’s about building the future based on the new opportunities as an outcome of the inconvenience that might be approaching.
Personal Resilience Key #7: Taking Distance
At the most difficult moments, I take a step back and take a deep breath. It may sound lame, but sometimes this is really the exact thing we should do. With too much strain, nothing gets better. We have to release it first. And then we gain our strength and decide whether something is worth the fight. If it is, we fight it when the storm is over.
Bonus Key: Priorities
I often ask myself what is really important in life. Learning to do so improved my personal resilience even more. Because sometimes it is simply about letting things go. Is it important? No? – Then I let it go and focus on other things that count more. Yes? – Then I work for it. I give it all I have and plan for the best result. Knowing I did my best is enough, even if it doesn’t work out as planned.
What Do these Keys actually Unlock?
The above-described keys do not unlock the secret to eliminate the possibility of devastating life events. They unlock our strength – resilience to bounce back from the failure, mistreatment, loss, pain, or other deeply painful experience and helps us get back to our path and focus on our purpose.
As well as this can help us lead a happy personal life, it is an important skill to have as a professional leader. And to all those leaders who wish to learn how to strengthen their personality and increase their resilience, I am always ready to offer a hand and support them on their way to achieving it.